#214: Jeff Cross on Refereeing, TikTok, Community, and Graveyard Caretaking

In this episode of the Kankakee Podcast, Drew Raiser sits down with Jeff Cross—local caretaker, social media creator, referee, and member of the Ordinary Dads group—for a lively and wide-ranging conversation about life in and around Kankakee. Jeff shares what it’s like to care for the Aroma Park Cemetery, his unexpected journey into cleaning gravestones, and how his TikTok videos spotlighting these quiet acts of care quickly gained a following of nearly 100,000. From viral flagpole videos to baseball field prep tips, Jeff reflects on his accidental social media fame and the heartfelt messages behind his online presence.

The conversation delves deeper, exploring Jeff’s two decades as a Big Ten and college basketball referee, the pressures and misconceptions officials face, and his unique approach to handling criticism from the stands. He and Drew swap stories about youth sports, the importance of sportsmanship, and the challenges—and rewards—of keeping your cool under fire.

But Jeff’s story doesn’t stop at the sidelines. He opens up about the Ordinary Dads group, a singing ensemble of local fathers that raises thousands each year to help community families in need. Drew and Jeff bond over their own musical backgrounds, navigating work-life balance, leaving a positive legacy, and the value of trying new things even when failure seems likely.

Throughout, the episode is packed with humor, personal moments, and real talk—from perfect days grilling burgers to the importance of supporting grandparents and embracing ordinary, everyday joys. Jeff’s passion for his work, family, and the Kankakee community shines, making this a can’t-miss conversation about embracing life’s many roles and lifting up those around you.

So what’s it like to wear so many hats in Kankakee County—and what can a cemetery caretaker, college referee, and singing dad teach us about giving back and handling life’s curveballs? Tune in for a generous helping of laughs, practical wisdom, and unexpected inspiration!

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